Avoidance isn’t a strategy.
Avoidance isn’t a strategy
I knew my fertility was declining, but I was afraid to ask the hard questions.
That was me in my 30s.
I was healthy. Active. My periods were consistent.
But I avoided the topic of my fertility because I wasn’t sure what I would do if the news was bad.
I didn’t have a partner, which I believed was a prerequisite for motherhood.
So I told myself that medical science would fix things if necessary.
It would all work out.
And I avoided asking questions that would reveal the truth.
Turns out my avoidance didn’t protect me.
It cost me valuable time and options.
Sitting in a fertility doctor’s office at 40, I learned just how limited my options had become.
Millions of women are following this same, flawed strategy right now.
Capable. Ambitious. And quietly afraid that motherhood may not happen the way they imagined.
I recently learned that 7 out of 10 women never even speak to their doctor about fertility.
Many are afraid of what they might hear.
Here’s the truth we don’t like to admit:
Avoidance may feel safe.
But it quietly takes control away from us.
A couple of weeks ago, I saw a medical specialist for a nagging health issue.
She was impressive—Yale-educated, successful, thriving in a new practice.
She asked what I do. So I shared a bit of my story.
Her face went pale.
“I’ve been meaning to freeze my eggs. I’m turning 36 next week.”
Within ten minutes of talking, she pulled out her phone and booked the appointment.
She wasn’t avoiding because she didn’t know better.
But even as a doctor, part of her was afraid to know.
Hiding from the truth doesn’t bring us closer to the life we want.
It only delays the moment we must face it—often with fewer options.
So what will help?
Taking charge. Having courage. Seeking information. Being open to new possibilities. Asking for support.
That’s why I’m so excited to speak with Dr. Susan Fox at 1pm ET today . Dr. Fox uses functional and Chinese medicine to help women understand and maximize their fertility.
If you’ve been avoiding the question, let today be the day you finally ask—and take your power back.
