Single Motherhood ≠ Single Forever

As a follow-up to Monday’s post, I want to debunk one myth about choosing single motherhood:

It doesn’t mean you’re giving up on love or finding your soulmate.

So many women worry that having a child on their own means they’ll never find a partner. That kind of black-and-white thinking keeps us stuck—and worse, it can hold us back from fulfilling our dream of becoming a mother.

But here’s the truth:

Families come in all shapes and sizes—and they form on their own timelines.

Blended families are no longer a rarity. More than 50% of Americans have been or will be part of a blended family at some point. (Spoiler alert: stepdads are statistically more common than stepmoms.)

By allowing love to find you in its own time...

You may spare your future children the pain and heartbreak of divorce.

You give yourself space to choose a partner for the right reasons—not because of a ticking clock.

You can be fully present in those tender early years of parenting, without the added strain of managing a romantic relationship.

Don’t get me wrong—it can be lonely.

There were moments when I felt like I had traded my independent, adult life for a 24/7 loop of diapers, snacks, and sleep deprivation.

But it was just a season.

As my kids got older, I found my footing again. And eventually, I found someone who truly sees me.

Not just as a mom.

But ME.

Today, we’re a big, beautiful, blended family. It’s not always perfect—there are growing pains and challenges, just like in any family.

It’s real. And it’s ours.

I hear stories like mine from so many other single mothers by choice.

So if you’re wondering:

“If I do this alone… will I always be alone?”

Let me tell you:

Choosing single motherhood doesn’t mean you’re choosing to be single forever.

Your story is still being written.

Love can—and does—find a way.

And yes…you can still have your happily ever after.