You’ve Had the Power All Along: A Love Letter to Women Facing Infertility

If you’re one of the estimated 100 million women around the world struggling with infertility right now, I want you to know something…

I see you.

I feel you.

I was you.

I know the heartbreak of dashed hopes, the ache of waiting, the deafening silence of unanswered prayers.

But I also have good news.

Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, you may not realize it yet, but you already have everything you need within you to reach your destination.

It may not look the way you imagined. It may not come on your preferred timeline.

But motherhood is still possible.

And you are still powerful.

When I was in the thick of it, I felt anything but powerful.

First, I felt helpless finding the right partner. Then, when married, I felt helpless to conceive a child.

And somewhere along the way, I internalized the shame—blaming my body, my timing, my choices.

Looking back on the journey now, I can see that I wasn’t helpless at all.

I was a successful marketing executive with years of hard-earned wisdom and experience.

Ironically, the traits that made me good at my job were the same ones that helped me build the family I dreamed of.

To walk the yellow brick road to motherhood, I needed:

✨ Vision – I could see my children before they ever existed. That vision became my fuel.

✨ Consistency – I was used to putting in the hard work, day after day. That same steady focus and effort were a must.

✨ Resourcefulness – I knew how to solve problems, gather the necessary tools, and change my approach when needed.  I would need to switch courses multiple times on this journey.

✨ Intuition – I needed to trust my gut, as I had done so many times before in my career, knowing that the right path would come to me at the right time.

✨ Perseverance – I refused to give up. I adjusted. I kept going. I kept believing.

To anyone walking this path: You are not broken. You are not alone.

And you are not out of options.

You may need to shift your perspective—and try clicking your heels in a new direction.

I bought this pair of ruby red slippers as a reminder never to lose faith in my power as a woman or my belief that all things are possible.

For those of you who have battled infertility and come out the other side, what essential skills did I leave out?

If you're feeling called to explore different paths to motherhood and want to put your brilliance, creativity, and grit to work in a whole new way, I’d be honored to help.

Just remember…you’ve had the power all along.

Let’s travel this road together.